Friday 31 July 2015

New View

We're well settled in to our new home - I'll post some photos when we get the art up on the walls! Our location and nature provide their own pieces of art - the view from the deck off our kitchen is onto Miss O's favorite park. The back gate opens onto a grassy side of the play park so it is very easy to get to the park and get home in a flash if needed.

That's our raised deck you can see through the swings.What a blessing!


There are swings, a see-saw, slides and climbing frames, a rope bridge, and a little climbing house.  The city does a great job of keep the park's grassy areas - so we have a lawn with no maintenance.




We can't wait to welcome our friends to our new yard!

Thursday 30 July 2015

Love and Marriage: Friends

We had a wonderful brunch today with three of Miss O's Godparents - our dear friends visiting from Paris, France and Belfast, Northern Ireland. The last time we were all together was for Miss O's baptism in October 2014, so today's meal was very precious.

We gathered around our well-loved table, pulling Miss O's highchair in tight so she wouldn't miss anything. As we were one chair short The Beloved perched on the little red ottoman making him resemble a hobbit. The spread was simple family style: sliced white crusty loaf nestled in a Provencal basket; four sheep cheeses met their end on a wooden board; a caprese salad with colorful heirloom tomatoes bathed in olive oil and balsamic; a platter of meats and a bowl of olives. Tasty, simple, pure.

Normal service had been resumed in our new home. Close friends feasting at the kitchen table.

The Church of Ireland marriage service liturgy states:
"In marriage husband and wife begin a new life together in the community."

It doesn't suggest that perhaps, maybe it might be a good idea for you to think about who you are going to walk out this marriage with. It doesn't hint that it's not great for any couple to be an island. It doesn't propose that you might possibly need others to keep you sane, faithful, married. Husband and wife begin their new married life in the community with other people. Period. 

Over the last 15 years we have found that we need community around us for our marriage to flourish and at times, to simply survive. We have friends that we both know and I have (need) my friends and The Beloved needs his. We have friends who are single, married, widowed or divorced; friendships that span over 20 years and new ones that are months old. 

We are blessed with soul mates; people who have been with us in the trenches and on the mountain tops. I'm not sure we deliberately chose those people. They're all very different from us and each other. Maybe that's why it works! It's not about comparisons, competitions or corrections - we're each others cheerleaders, coaches and cup bearers. As our friends love me and my family they woo me to keep going and to love more. 

Thank-you dear friends ... you know who you are!

Wednesday 29 July 2015

Love and marriage: Sacrifice

Timothy and Kathy Keller wrote a book in 2013 called "The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God". Pulling together decades of experience in preaching on marriage, pre-martial preparation, couples counseling and a long marriage themselves; the Kellers pack this book with great wisdom.

Well, to be honest I know there is wisdom up to page 47. I got to 47 and couldn't get any further. It was there that Keller gets to the uncomfortable heart or secret of marriage:

"Do for your spouse what God did for you in Jesus, and the rest will follow."

This doesn't mean that marriage is a roll-over, subservient, oppressive regime. Rather in mutuality we give all of ourselves to the other. In unconditional love we do whatever it takes to create the way for our Beloved to be free, forgiven and fulfilled. We have the chance to daily chose the selfless pursuit of another's dreams and adventures. 

Something holy happens when both spouses choose to live sacrificially for the other. And honestly, it takes Holy interventions of grace, mercy, strength and love to make those choices. It's only as one desires and pursues the transforming work of the Holy Spirit can one hope be like Christ to their spouse. 

And it's this sacrificial choice that gives flesh and bones and breath to our precious marriage vows:
 I Lisa take you Richard to be my husband, 
 to have and to hold, from this day forward
 for better, for worse, 
 for richer, for poorer, 
 in sickness and in health, 
 to love and to cherish, 
 till death us do part, according to God's holy law.
 This is my solemn vow.  

May God grant you the grace, strength, joy and courage to live a sacrificial marriage.

Tuesday 28 July 2015

Love and Marriage: Kindness

Thanks to an amazing gang of friends our house move and the pre-painting adventures all went swimmingly well. We are SO thankful!!

Unfortunately Miss O caught a summer cold at the end of last week and by Sunday morning there was snot everywhere and one very unhappy baby. Given that one of the great gifts of family life is One Up All Up, we're all exhausted.

I don't know about you but I am a grump when I'm tired. My fuse is short and my tongue is sharp. It's really not pretty. The Beloved, he goes quiet but with the potential to be patronizing and Miss O shouts at anything and everything and wants to watch Peppa Pig all day. It can all be a lethal combination!

It seems that at such times affection, romance, adoration take a vacation. There's no heady rush of hormones that scrambled your lovestruck brain to keep you choosing your spouse. In fact it's probable that you won't like them very much at all when you are both exhausted and not acting nor looking your best.

This is when we must cultivate the habit of kindness. We get to practice taking a breath to stop us speaking harshly or carelessly. We get to consider the Other's feelings as well as our own. We get to recall that our Beloved's entrusted their tender hearts to us and we must hold it like water.

My prayer is that kindness is my daily habit - because I know I'll have many more opportunities to choose to be kind to The Beloved!

Monday 27 July 2015

Great Day Out: National Portrait Gallery & undiscovered gems

The National Portrait Gallery and the Smithsonian American Art Museum are two of my favorite places in DC. This post from February 2013 reveals a lesser known treasure of this DC landmark:

"These two museums encircle the honeycombed roofed Kogod Courtyard - a gathering place for art devourers, city escapees, culture hungry tourists and starlight seeking lovers. Just being there opens space in one's imagination.

We've been to these museums lots of times since moving to DC and so apart from the new exhibitions about Potraits On The Edge and the life of Amelia Earhart  (inspirational stuff!), we assumed we'd the space nailed. A well-known and loved beauty.

Then we wandered through a side door into Narnia. The majestic mosaic grey blue floor of the Luce Foundation Center led us into a Victorianna haven of wrought iron railings and a domed glass roof. What a hidden gem. We'd no idea. Secreted away off the narrow galleried walkways are magical drawers of French miniatures and thin sliced cabinets of icons and portraits. Pieces of the museum's collections currently not on display in the main galleries but just too good not to have on show somewhere!


It's fitting that we found this space on a day that I had gone to there to write; to be infected by other people's stories. There are people I think I've sown up - I know lots about their history and their perspectives, their likes and their challenges. Yet, there's always more. There's always hidden gems of patterned paths, intricate boundaries and treasures just too good to not be on show. If only I'll go through some new doors and be open to being surprised.

I wonder what undiscovered gems lie within us? We're the curators of our own souls - we choose what and where we display our portraits, we decide the form of our icons, and nurture or neglect the gallery space that has been entrusted to us.

Pay attention to those side doors today - you never know what treasures lie waiting for and in you!"

Sunday 26 July 2015

Sabbath Reflection: July 26th 2015

I pray you hear God's invitation to you to come sit with Him a while.

The Collect for today:
O God, the protector of all who trust in you, without whom nothing is strong, nothing is holy: Increase and multiply upon us your mercy; that, with you as our ruler and guide, we may so pass through things temporal, that we lose not the things eternal; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.

 The lectionary readings appointed for today:
 2 Samuel 11: 1-5
Psalm 14
Ephesians 3: 14-21
John 6: 1-21

Ephesians 3:14-21

A Prayer for the Ephesians

14 For this reason I kneel before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. 16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

Saturday 25 July 2015

Saturday Digest: Under pressure but thankful

Today's the day of our house move so this is a short digest! Two songs summing up this day!


Under Pressure
 Three legends, Queen, Annie Lennox and David Bowie, live at Wembley, London in 1992



Thank-you for being a Friend! 
The Golden Girls sum up how we feel about all the people who have helped us move!

Friday 24 July 2015

Dislocation ... again

Tomorrow is the big move although we got the keys to our new home this morning. As we leave one place and nest in another this is our fifth home in 5 years. Perhaps we'll get to stay a while.

Moving house always stirs the emotions we experienced when we left Northern Ireland and moved to Virginia in November 2010. Below is an extract from a blog post I wrote the month we arrived in the New World.

"Parting is such sweet sorrow ... and taking off from Belfast International, I watched the Welcome to Belfast sign for as long as possible, holding on to the lasting impressions from the hugs of my family and friends.

I thought I'd settle myself into the new life with a manicure in Newark airport - well a girl has to look the part. However, I was confronted in my chillaxing with the wall reminder that:

                                   Every single one of us, at various times, 
          finds ourselves forced to endure a situation we probably wouldn't choose.

What a leveler. It's easy to be so fixated on our own journeys that we become numb to the travels of our fellow passengers. How many people have been displaced since Richard and I accepted the opportunity to move to Washington? 


I've been thinking a lot about dislocation - the process or result of things not being where they should be; life not being the way it was supposed to be. Or the reality that at various points in all our lives God uproots us - physically, emotionally, spiritually - and sets us somewhere else. Sometimes He is gentle with us, wooing and cajoling us along; other times he sends a whirlwind because He's maybe struggling to get our attention or maybe just because....

I'm hoping that my dislocation breeds compassion for my fellow travellers who are all in varying stages of being picked up and set-down somewhere else."



Thursday 23 July 2015

Love and Marriage: Embracing Change

We're all a lot older than we used to be ... gravity has encouraged a southward tilt of the mouth; the cracking knees and expelling of breaths provide the soundtrack to daily rising and falling; and books seem to have smaller and smaller text.

I was 21 when I met The Beloved and he was 20. It took us 6 years to get down the aisle - we were young, full of passion and desire to make a career and live life to the full. Marriage seemed to signify none of those things. Putting your proverbial eggs in one basket early on was one heck of a risk. Little did I know that whenever you choose a life partner it's the same level of risk.

Turns out I need not have worried about choosing one man. We joke that I have never needed to have an affair because I've been married to 5 different men. The Beloved today is not the man I married. Indeed a few days, months, years into marriage he was different. As was I.

The challenge seems to be to choose, work, desire to still love in the midst of inevitable change. Trusting that your spouse will keep choosing, working and desiring love too.

Marriage is the perfect place to stay young, live full of passion and drive, find fulfillment and  adventure. The trick is chasing those things together, as one flesh. It's a privilege to have a ring side seat to watch another humanoid come home to themselves. It's an honor that no matter the changes they need you to share in the daily breaking of bread where together you are redeemed, refreshed and renewed.

August 7th, 2000

August 7th, 2010

Wednesday 22 July 2015

Love and Marriage: The Flowers

I loved my wedding bouquet - it was full of beautiful dramatic stargazer lilies and dotted with thistley eryngium as a nod to our Scottish courtship.We were married in a church that had aspirations to be a cathedral - so a large bouquet was in keeping with the space and the cathedral veil of my dress.


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The bold, youthful stargazers were very 'us' in 2000. 15 years on my flowers would probably be more subtle with messages of tenderness and trust. There would still be whispers of our courtship and the odd nod to our daughter's exotic lineage. Here are some lovely bouquets I'd happily carry down the aisle.

http://www.theperfectpalette.com/2014/04/now-trending-dusty-blue-vintage.html 

http://www.destinationweddingmag.com/gallery/bridal-bouquets-wedding-flowers-150-bouquet-ideas?image=59

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Tuesday 21 July 2015

Love and Marriage: The Gift of Difference

The Beloved and I met at Aberdeen University in 1994 and started dating within the month. I was 21 years old. It won't be long before I'll have lived longer with R in my life than without him. That's cool and kinda scary too.

We were an unlikely pair back then - one of our best friends who knew each of us since 1992 still can't believe we are dating never mind being married for 15 years! I think it's because we are just so different. I'm an extrovert, he's an introvert; I love music and performing, he marches to his own beat; I'm a worrywart, he's a optimist that "It'll be alright". And the list could go on ...

Differences between partners is a good and healthy part of marriage. You need your spouse to tilt the scales back when you give something more weight than it's due. You need your spouse's height to see that mountain for the molehill that it is; you need their history to know that all will be well and all manner of things will be well. I need the Beloved to call me to mercy when judgement pulls at my mind, heart and soul. The differences between us gifts not threats.

There will always be things you'll want to change about your partner but before you go pursuing a renovation remember that they're your other half. You need them to be who they were essentially created to be so you both can be whole and flourish.

So join Billy Joel and sing it loud "I love you just the way you are."


Don't go changing to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore

I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times; I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are

Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care

I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you?

I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are

Published by
Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group


Monday 20 July 2015

Come walk among the Saints and Scholars

There is nowhere quite like the North Coast of Northern Ireland. There are stunning cliffs, soft sands, surfing waves, superb restaurants and light that takes your breath away. It's home to the amazing Giant's Causeway (a UNESCO World Heritage Site); the thrilling Carrick-a-rede Rope Bridge; the 16th century cliff hanging Dunluce Castle; the world renown Royal Portrush Golf Club; and the tasty Bushmills Irish Whiskey Distillery distilling the uisce beatha since 1608. You're never short of things to do and see in Co. Antrim!

Like the Cotswolds, The Beloved and I would love to own a vacation property on the North Coast. It calls you to the edge of the land, inviting you to breath deep in the bracing winds and taste the salty Atlantic air. You sleep soundly after you play on the ancient rocks, dance in the frothy sea and feast on yield of the land.

If you're debating a visit to my Motherland let me help you hear the invitation from the island to come and walk amongst the saints and scholars.

http://www.alistairhamillphotography.com/causeway-coast/ 

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(All these stunning images are by Northern Irish photographer Alistair Hamill - he has captured the magic of Northern Ireland perfectly! You can (and should!) buy any of these photographs and follow Alistair's work at www.alistairhamillphotography.com)

Sunday 19 July 2015

Sabbath Reflection: July 19th, 2015

I pray you hear God's invitation to you to come sit with Him a while.

The Collect for today:
Almighty God, the fountain of all wisdom, you know our necessities before we ask and our ignorance in asking: Have compassion on our weakness, and mercifully give us those things which for our unworthiness we dare not, and for our blindness we cannot ask; through the worthiness of your Son Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

 The lectionary readings appointed for today:
Jeremiah 23:1-6
Psalm 23
Ephesians 2:11-22
Mark 6:30-34, 53-56



Psalm 23

1-3 God, my shepherd!
    I don’t need a thing.
You have bedded me down in lush meadows,
    you find me quiet pools to drink from.
True to your word,
    you let me catch my breath
    and send me in the right direction.
 
Even when the way goes through
    Death Valley,
I’m not afraid
    when you walk at my side.
Your trusty shepherd’s crook
    makes me feel secure.

You serve me a six-course dinner
    right in front of my enemies.
You revive my drooping head;
    my cup brims with blessing.

Your beauty and love chase after me
    every day of my life.
I’m back home in the house of God
    for the rest of my life.


Saturday 18 July 2015

Saturday Digest: Bedside table treats

What's on my bedside table this summer?

> A sign of getting old(er) - The Bates reading glasses +1.00!

> A cup of Tetley tea in my favorite Nicholas Mosse mug:

http://nicholasmosse.com/products/large-mug-clematis
> Copies of my various magazine subscriptions: Southern Living Family Circle, House Beautiful, Parenting, SmithsonianZoogooer, and (ironically) Real Simple. The Beloved thinks I have a magazine fetish... he could be right!

> My current and future reads:
http://www.amazon.com/Jayber-Crow-Wendell-Berry/dp/1582431604/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1437158879&sr=1-1&keywords=jayber+crow

http://www.amazon.com/Gilead-Novel-Marilynne-Robinson/dp/031242440X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1437158987&sr=1-1&keywords=gilead+by+marilynne+robinson

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Friday 17 July 2015

Small house big home

With the house move a week away I've started to dream about having less 'stuff' to move! It's amazing how a family's possessions expand to fill the size of the house. I can see how the small house movement has gained traction - less space, less stuff, less hassle!

One Christmas we visited the Cotswolds in England. It was idyllic - think Kate Winslet's village in The Holiday. The Beloved and I have dreamed of living there ever since! One of my favorite blogs The Inspired Room just highlighted a House and Garden feature of my ideal little cottage:

http://www.houseandgarden.co.uk/interiors/real-homes/caroline-holdaway-fatimah-namdar-cotswold-cottage

You can view the whole cottage tour here - but my two favorite shots are of the view into the dining room from the first floor and the gorgeous library. I can just hear the laughter ringing around that dining room table and the inspiration singing from the library desk, what a delight!

http://www.houseandgarden.co.uk/interiors/real-homes/caroline-holdaway-fatimah-namdar-cotswold-cottage

http://www.houseandgarden.co.uk/interiors/real-homes/caroline-holdaway-fatimah-namdar-cotswold-cottage

Small in this instance is definitely beautiful.  It's not about the square footage of a home but about the ecosystem that thrives there. It's about the coming and going; the loved filled meals and hugs; the spilled drinks and tears; the shared cuppas and dreams. A smaller house invites (necessitates!) intimacy while reminding us that having too much 'stuff' can get in the way of welcoming family and friends.

Who knows if we'll ever get to fulfill our Cotswolds dreams but till then I'm going to enjoy making and finding 'home' no matter the footprint of our space!

Thursday 16 July 2015

Life starts in the garden

Friends from church are moving to Canada for 3 years and have entrusted their precious community garden plot (or allotment as we call it at home!) to our church family. We are very excited!!

There are tomatoes, basil, lemongrass and poblano peppers and the raspberry canes, freed from the weeds are promising tasty berries now they can see the sun. I'm intrigued by our watermelon plants & I marvel at the variety and quality of produce and flowers the other gardeners have in the plots. The Beloved, Miss O and I headed there early yesterday morning to put in some marigolds and a miniature pumpkin plant. Despite thunder storms being forecast for this week, we are yet to see any rain. So after her first wheelbarrow ride, helping Daddy tie-in the raspberry canes and turn over some earth, Miss O helped me water herself and the plot.

I've always loved gardening, ever since I was a little girl and my Great Uncle Jim taught me to dig, prune, water and nurture flowers and veg. The garden has come to mean a great deal to me as a space where God teaches me about Himself, myself, and this adventurous life.

Below is an extract from a blog-post I wrote in April 2012 - it's as true today as it was then!

" There's something captivating about watching a seed or a bulb bring forth a plant with fruit or veg or flowers. All the potential for growth resides in these little pods just waiting for just the right conditions and time. Brilliant.

I've been thinking about how there are seeds of dreams, desires and talent in us. We've dreams that imperceptible - we don't even know they're there yet, and these can spring up where we least expect them. You just have to watch that they're flowers and not weeds! Other desires are bigger, we probably can't remember a time when they weren't part of us and some of these have already brought forth beautiful blooms and tender fruit. We've talents that are foundational to who we are but like bulbs we have seasons when they're on show and seasons when they turn ugly and go into hiding.

Some seeds are dormant because it's not yet time.

It dawned on me recently that I've spent a lot of time worrying about when the dormant ones will appear; concerned that perhaps those seeds are defective and dead. While the whole time there has been a beautiful garden full of character, strength, compassion and grace, being lovingly tended by The Gardener. He has rained mercy on me, feed me in goodness and kindness, pruned me when needed and delighted over the glorious floral displays.

He is making beautiful things out of the dust and ALL things will bear blooms and an abundant harvest at exactly the right time. So, The Gardener invites us to wander with Him in the cool of the day, as He shows us what He has planted and uprooted in our lives. And He implores us to celebrate the Garden that we are now and rest in the assurance that He brings all things to completion. "


Wednesday 15 July 2015

Love and marriage: Saying yes to the dress


I got married in August 2000 - a great year for being able to easily work out how many years you've been wed! A downside - Pinterest wasn't invented. I would have spent hours pouring over dresses, flowers, invitations and decorations.

This Love and Marriage blog series is my chance to indulge my Pinterest wedding dreams. Today - the dress:

http://www.izidressbuy.com/a-line-princess-scoop-court-train-satin-wedding-dress-iziwd5462.html?izisrccid=3


http://www.vaniaromoff.com.ph/bridal/


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http://www.weddinginspirasi.com/2014/08/20/house-of-mooshki-spring-2015-wedding-dresses/

Tuesday 14 July 2015

Love and Marriage: Romance

One of the great challenges in marriage is how to keep the romance alive. Demands on your time from family, work, friends, fitness, can mean quality time just you and your spouse can get squeezed. It was a big shock to our romantic system when Miss O arrived after 13 years of marriage! That is a long time to be a two and then a three - with the new one determining A LOT of what the first two can and cannot do!

A bit like staying together (and terribly un-Hollywood) - romance seems to be a choice. One has to choose to make the time to romance your spouse. It takes great effort when you are already exhausted to get dolled up, put on some fancy gear and flirt with someone you know you're definitely going to sleep next to that night. Nurturing intimacy takes imagination and creativity.

When we move house I want to set up a romantic night for the Beloved and I in the yard. A rug, some popcorn, lots of candles, a bottle of vino and a favorite movie would be an inexpensive yet intimate evening at home (so no need to pay a babysitter!). You see, outdoor movies are events that only happened in movies when I was young. Now I live where the weather permits such activities! Here are some backyard movie ideas that are perfect for love! Happy Romancing at Home!

http://atelierchristine.com/archives/3165/photography/entertaining-hollywood-style-a-backyard-movie-screening-night

http://fancy.com/things/102695185737062823/Outdoor-Double-Arm-Bench

http://www.pinkpistachio.com/penny-jar-dates/


Monday 13 July 2015

Love and Marriage: Staying together

The Beloved and I are married 15 years next month! Wow! Where did the time go? We've had our share of amazing, ordinary and down-right awful times but there is no-one else I would want to be on this adventure with than my Beloved.

In the run-up to our anniversary I thought it would be fun to have a few posts about weddings, marriage and love.

We enjoyed a wonderful wedding day - full of family, friends and laughter. Honestly, it exceeded all my expectations - it was so beautiful. We were married in St Malachy's Parish Church, Hillsborough, Northern Ireland - fulfilling my childhood dream of getting married in a church with a long driveway!



I'm not sure if The Beloved and I would ever formally renew our wedding vows - recreating any part of that August day would be difficult. Rather each year on our anniversary we sit quietly together and one of us asks "Will we give it another year?" With an echoing "We will" our vows are renewed before each other and God. It reflects the reality that staying together is an annual, monthly, daily, hourly, choice.

Marriage seems to be an invitation to repetition. I don't mean in the 'Take out the trash honey!', 'Watch the child, babe!', 'Pay the bills, darling!' kinda way.  I mean in the 'I will choose you', 'I will choose us'; 'I will choose you',  'I will choose us' kinda way. With repetition comes familiarity, confidence and second-nature proficiency that opens a space for being fully known, accepted and loved. A space where we can be home. 

Sunday 12 July 2015

Sabbath Reflection: July 12th, 2015

I pray you hear God's invitation to you to come sit with Him a while.

The Collect for today:
O Lord, mercifully receive the prayers of your people who call upon you, and grant that they may know and understand what things they ought to do, and also may have grace and power faithfully to accomplish them; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

 The lectionary readings appointed for today:
 Samuel 6:1-5, 12b-19
Psalm 85:8-13
Ephesians 1:3-14
Mark 6:14-29

Ephesians 1:3-14

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, just as he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless before him in love.

He destined us for adoption as his children through Jesus Christ, according to the good pleasure of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace that he freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace that he lavished on us.

With all wisdom and insight he has made known to us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure that he set forth in Christ, as a plan for the fullness of time, to gather up all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.

In Christ we have also obtained an inheritance, having been destined according to the purpose of him who accomplishes all things according to his counsel and will, so that we, who were the first to set our hope on Christ, might live for the praise of his glory.

In him you also, when you had heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and had believed in him, were marked with the seal of the promised Holy Spirit; this is the pledge of our inheritance toward redemption as God's own people, to the praise of his glory.






Saturday 11 July 2015

Saturday Digest: Summertime

Take a breath ...in ... and out. It's summer - so kick back, pour yourself a drink and take it easy!

Summer Posture A: PureWow guides us how to gracefully get into a hammock.

Summer Posture B: The one and only Miss Ella Fitzgerald ushers us to another era - a great version of the classic Summertime:


Summer Posture C: Refreshing and healthy drinking from Back to Her Root:

Ingredients
  • 1 cup sliced strawberries
  • 1 cup sliced cucumbers
  • 2 limes, sliced
  • 1/4 cup fresh mint leaves
  • Ice cubes
  • Water
Instructions 
In a half-gallon jar, or a 2 quart pitcher, layer the strawberries, cucumbers, lime slices, and mint leaves with the ice cubes. Fill jar or pitcher with water. Let chill for 10 minutes, and then enjoy!

Friday 10 July 2015

I'll have one of each ....

Cocktails are so summery...autumnal...wintery...springy... Ok so anytime is a good time for a cocktail. Here are some Summertime delights I'd love to try - happy muddling!

Thursday 9 July 2015

A few of Miss O's favourite things...books

Even at 19 months Miss O has her own tastes. She has a lot of books and it's such a thrill to see her sitting on the floor by her bookcase leafing, discarding, studying, ingesting. She has some books that get more than a cursory glance. Here are her current favorites:

http://www.amazon.com/Were-Different-Sesame-Street-Pictureback/dp/0679832270/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1436379550&sr=1-1&keywords=we%27re+different+we%27re+the+same

This is a wonderful book which celebrates diversity and belonging. Miss O studies each page of colorful illustrations with great intensity. A classic from 1992.

http://www.amazon.com/Pride-Prejudice-BabyLit%C2%AECounting-Primer-English/dp/1423622022/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1436397930&sr=1-1&keywords=pride+and+prejudice+board+book

Clearly the girl has a taste for romance - a delightfully accessible adaptation of Jane Austen's 1813 Pride and Prejudice.

This produces swish, whoosh, beep, bop, and screech noises every night - all the Llama Llama books are a big hit but this one is her favorite.

http://www.amazon.com/Going---Bed-Book-Sandra-Boynton/dp/0671449028/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1436460290&sr=1-1&keywords=the+goodnight+book

Miss O is a HUGE Sandra Boynton fan. This 1982 classic taught her to say teeth, sleep and exercise. Other Boynton favorites are "Are you a cow?", "Happy Birthday Little Pookie", and "But not the Hippopotamus." Boynton's "Doggies" is another regular with "9 dogs on a moonlit night" producing a perfectly timed "Haaaawhhooooooooooooo" from Miss O - priceless!

http://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-First-Word-Will/dp/1250009340/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=8-1&qid=1436397293

Miss O got this book for The Beloved - her Beloved Daddy - for Father's Day. The two of them read it together each night when we get to hear the whole farmyard and shouts of DADA. She loves the illustrations and the humor! Good job Jimmy!