I was 21 when I met The Beloved and he was 20. It took us 6 years to get down the aisle - we were young, full of passion and desire to make a career and live life to the full. Marriage seemed to signify none of those things. Putting your proverbial eggs in one basket early on was one heck of a risk. Little did I know that whenever you choose a life partner it's the same level of risk.
Turns out I need not have worried about choosing one man. We joke that I have never needed to have an affair because I've been married to 5 different men. The Beloved today is not the man I married. Indeed a few days, months, years into marriage he was different. As was I.
The challenge seems to be to choose, work, desire to still love in the midst of inevitable change. Trusting that your spouse will keep choosing, working and desiring love too.
Marriage is the perfect place to stay young, live full of passion and drive, find fulfillment and adventure. The trick is chasing those things together, as one flesh. It's a privilege to have a ring side seat to watch another humanoid come home to themselves. It's an honor that no matter the changes they need you to share in the daily breaking of bread where together you are redeemed, refreshed and renewed.
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| August 7th, 2000 |
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| August 7th, 2010 |
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